There’s an expectation put on men that they will be ‘strong’ and be ‘able to take care of themselves’. Often men who have been the victims of domestic violence or sexual attack – whether rape or an assault – feel that they are ‘less’ of a man because of it. It stirs up loads of other feelings of confusion and self doubt.
Domestic violence and male rape are things that never seem to be discussed in public. Many people don’t even realise they exist. Men can also be the victims of sexual assault. Men who have suffered sexual abuse when younger can still be haunted by the memories years later.
Understandably, people find rape and sexual assault difficult to talk about. They feel embarrassed, ashamed, guilty or even to blame in some way.
You don’t have to feel isolated or alone. You don’t have to put up with what’s happened. You can call CALM in total confidence. You can tell them whatever you like. They’ll listen and can put you in touch with others who have been there – people who can offer real guidance and understanding.
New helpline launched by NAPAC
NAPAC offer a supportline to adults who have been abused as children. The helpline number is 0800 085 3330. The opening times are from Monday to Friday, from 10.30am to 3pm, Wednesday evenings from 7 to 9pm and Thursday evenings from 8.30 to 10.30pm. On weekends, it is open on every 3rd Saturday in the month from 12 noon to 4pm and Sunday evenings from 8.30 to 10.30pm.